It was a week ago yesterday, at 12 weeks that I learned my pregnancy hadn't survived beyond 7-8 weeks. My womb had cruelly continued to grow as though I was still pregnant but the embryo inside had died. The first I learned that all was not ok was through brown discharge, turning to pink, turning … [Read more...]
TW – Miscarriagie Diary – Early Pregnancy Unit – Prioritising which woman deserve reassurance
I'm spotting, brown discharge. My midwife reassures me. I am reassured. This could be normal. Yes - I know it can be. Cling on to that hope. I'm spotting pink discharge. My midwife reassures me. Only fresh red blood should be a concern. Cling on to that hope. I'm spotting fresh red … [Read more...]
TW – Miscarriagie Diary – Hide your grief
"Maybe you should just say its ladies problems"? Except it isnt -just a ladies problem. Its grief, raw grief, pain......... I have a dead baby inside me I didn't put it in there alone so how is it just my problem? Or Ladies Problems? "I dont think they need to know right … [Read more...]
TW – Miscarriagie Diary – I imagined you
I imagined you I dreamed of you I'd thought of names I liked for you. I included you in all our future dreams. We thought about where you would sleep, where your bedroom would eventually be, your siblings and their relationship with you. The complexities of our blended family, life … [Read more...]
Dear Midwives………
‘Train your baby like a dog’ – The Review
I am a Postpartum Doula, Birth and Parenting Educator and Coach, I have a particular interest in supporting parents with normal infant sleep and toddler behaviour. In 2012 I trained with both: Sarah Ockwell Smith - Psychologist with a specialism in Child Development - Formerly … [Read more...]
Child Of Mine – Birth Loss Awareness Week
Why I am urging everyone to go and watch the screening of Child of Mine. Baby Loss Awareness Week. 09th - 15th October 2018 After much deliberation, debate and deep thought I decided to purchase my ticket for the screening of Child of mine, being hosted at the Arts theatre, Cambridge on … [Read more...]
To my stepchildren – from your (not so wicked) stepmother
To my 3 stepchildren. I'm writing this open letter because I feel strongly that I want to record my feelings at this time. Sometimes being a step family is bloody hard. My heart breaks often when I listen to the things you have to say about being part of a separated family. Ok, at … [Read more...]
Why I am not worried about the Home Education Bill introduced by Lord Soley
The Home Education Bill introduced by Lord Soley is on the radar of many Home Educating families at the moment. On social media there are many discussions amongst Home Educators around the Bill, ranging from those families that are mildly anxious to those that are feeling sheer panic to all of … [Read more...]
An open letter to Midwives struggling to work with Doulas…………..
An open letter to a midwife............ Dear Midwife........... Today you were assigned to support a birthing mum whose birth support team consisted of her husband and her Doula. I was their Doula. As we proceeded to spend most of the day with one another I spent a lot of time listening to … [Read more...]